I KNOW it has been a while...well, this is my first blog of the year BUT I'm here and will be heavy with the game from now on so expect a daily post from now on.
To kick off my first blog of the year, I want y'all to chime in and tell me what y'all feel about a theory that I've come to know and believe is true. Before we start, there is no right or wrong answer and i want to hear from the men and women so once you read it, please re-post.
Everyone that knows or knows of me know that I am a Southern woman. Born in Texas, raised in Kentucky and fed in Alabama. Out of my 25 years of life, I have met many people from several walks of life. Out of the, possibly, thousands of people that I have met, the ones that have stuck in my memory are from the North and the South.
Now...here is my theory. I believe that it is destined for a Northern man or woman to be with a Southern man or woman in order to be truly happy and equally fulfilled in life. If I made someone mad, my apologies to your feelings. I don't take back what I said but I will explain.
-Women down South are the 'I ran your bath water; would you like a back rub too', "I ironed your shirts for the week', 'Went in at 7, got off at 4, went home & made dinner; collard greens, black eyed peas, rice, baked chicken, cornbread & baked a Peach Cobbler' type women.
-Women from the North are the 'fist in the air', 'what do I look like, your maid', 'I just worked all day, did you really think I was going to come in and slave over a stove for you?' type women.
This is all stereotypical. We know everyone isn't like this so don't be offended
I know for a fact how, as a Southerner, we are raised to be able to take care of ourselves and our family in a more nurturing sense. There was no specific role that we were given; our mothers/fathers/parents taught [men and women alike] how to do EVERYTHING. We were bred to know how to cook, clean, hunt, fish, clean the fish, fix a tire, change the oil, know the difference between a Phillips screwdriver and a monkey wrench; name it, we've been shown how to do it.
Now, we all know that a relationship should be as balanced as possible.
If I were to approach a Southern man & we had the 'what can you bring to the table' conversation...it would not go well because just as I can cook his breakfast, lunch and dinner, so can he. Just as I can iron & wash his clothes, he can do the same thing. He doesn't need me. The shoe would be on the same foot if the roles were reversed because, again, our parents taught us this as we came up.
If I were to approach a Northern man & we had the 'what can you bring to the table' conversation, I would be able to somewhat complete him, being that he was raised to get out and work and probably didn't have what I was given as he came up so, me waking him every morning with breakfast, him coming home to a spotless house, bath drawn and a hot dinner on the table would be 'out of the norm' for him because, again, that's not what a woman that he is used to up North would typically do.
Same thing with the women. If a Southern man was to approach a Northern woman and have that 'what can you bring to the table' conversation, they would most likely complete each other. He doesn't have to ask her to cook. He can cook for her and him. Her tire blew? He knows exactly what to do. That way, he doesn't take her out of her comfort zone and make her conform to a lifestyle that she isn't used to & she can still be the head strong, power 'I GOT IT' woman that she is.
Feel how you want; I can't impress a Southern man because to him, I am just another version of his mother and seriously...no man wants to screw his mother.
Comment. Agree? Disagree? Want to kill me? Say what you feel. Now is the time.
www.theemilyexperience.com
To kick off my first blog of the year, I want y'all to chime in and tell me what y'all feel about a theory that I've come to know and believe is true. Before we start, there is no right or wrong answer and i want to hear from the men and women so once you read it, please re-post.
Everyone that knows or knows of me know that I am a Southern woman. Born in Texas, raised in Kentucky and fed in Alabama. Out of my 25 years of life, I have met many people from several walks of life. Out of the, possibly, thousands of people that I have met, the ones that have stuck in my memory are from the North and the South.
Now...here is my theory. I believe that it is destined for a Northern man or woman to be with a Southern man or woman in order to be truly happy and equally fulfilled in life. If I made someone mad, my apologies to your feelings. I don't take back what I said but I will explain.
-Women down South are the 'I ran your bath water; would you like a back rub too', "I ironed your shirts for the week', 'Went in at 7, got off at 4, went home & made dinner; collard greens, black eyed peas, rice, baked chicken, cornbread & baked a Peach Cobbler' type women.
-Women from the North are the 'fist in the air', 'what do I look like, your maid', 'I just worked all day, did you really think I was going to come in and slave over a stove for you?' type women.
This is all stereotypical. We know everyone isn't like this so don't be offended
I know for a fact how, as a Southerner, we are raised to be able to take care of ourselves and our family in a more nurturing sense. There was no specific role that we were given; our mothers/fathers/parents taught [men and women alike] how to do EVERYTHING. We were bred to know how to cook, clean, hunt, fish, clean the fish, fix a tire, change the oil, know the difference between a Phillips screwdriver and a monkey wrench; name it, we've been shown how to do it.
Now, we all know that a relationship should be as balanced as possible.
If I were to approach a Southern man & we had the 'what can you bring to the table' conversation...it would not go well because just as I can cook his breakfast, lunch and dinner, so can he. Just as I can iron & wash his clothes, he can do the same thing. He doesn't need me. The shoe would be on the same foot if the roles were reversed because, again, our parents taught us this as we came up.
If I were to approach a Northern man & we had the 'what can you bring to the table' conversation, I would be able to somewhat complete him, being that he was raised to get out and work and probably didn't have what I was given as he came up so, me waking him every morning with breakfast, him coming home to a spotless house, bath drawn and a hot dinner on the table would be 'out of the norm' for him because, again, that's not what a woman that he is used to up North would typically do.
Same thing with the women. If a Southern man was to approach a Northern woman and have that 'what can you bring to the table' conversation, they would most likely complete each other. He doesn't have to ask her to cook. He can cook for her and him. Her tire blew? He knows exactly what to do. That way, he doesn't take her out of her comfort zone and make her conform to a lifestyle that she isn't used to & she can still be the head strong, power 'I GOT IT' woman that she is.
Feel how you want; I can't impress a Southern man because to him, I am just another version of his mother and seriously...no man wants to screw his mother.
Comment. Agree? Disagree? Want to kill me? Say what you feel. Now is the time.
www.theemilyexperience.com
4 comments:
i need a southern girl like that cause the girl 4rm up north is like that
I never thought about it that way. I am from the north, not by choice, and I have been to the south and plan on moving there next year. Maybe I will have find a quality woman and the theory works because I have given up on women up here.
I think that they are one in the same...but if I had to choose id definitely want a southern girl as a queen....not because of what she would.do but because of how she might have been.raised..nice blog emily!
I think it depends. I need a woman who can do for herself and not always need me. It is something bout southern women makes me weak though lol. Well written observation
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